Valentine’s Day is here! But wait, does it just have to be for couples? Many of you reading this I know are single, but for those in relationships reading this, enjoy your day/evening.
For those of us that are single and looking, is this the most depressing day of the year? Or can we do more for ourselves here? I will be exploring Valentine’s Day as a singleton in a bit more detail in today’s article.
Well hello there! Firstly let me apologise for my lack of posts recently, I have been extremely busy of late. This is my busiest time of year for me at work, BUT and it’s a big but, I have been working on something I am really excited to share with you all in the coming weeks…watch this space! Make sure you subscribe to my blog (at the bottom of this page) to be one of the first to know more!
While Valentine’s Day is generally associated with romantic connotations – it doesn’t have to be. I put a post up on my Facebook page on Sunday asking how you all plan on spending it and so many of you plan on either spending it with friends or even their children. Some of you were going to the cinema to watch the new 50 shades film (presumably without your children), others were having meals with friends and some were spending it with their children, having a day out or even cooking together. So straight away, we are dispelling the romantic myth associated with Valentine’s Day and attributing it more to love and friendship – good work guys!
(Table for 3 please!)
Sure you may feel lonely and see the shops filled with roses, chocolates and cards and while it can be a sobering thought being on your own, it really doesn’t have to be.
The things NOT to do on Valentine’s Day
For me though (and this is just my opinion, some of which is tongue in cheek), there are some definite things NOT to do on Valentine’s Day. While some of them may seem obvious, you’d be surprised at how many of us fall into the trap:
⁃ Do NOT call, text or Facebook stalk an ex partner – you will only make yourself feel worse or make a fool of yourself.
⁃ Probably best not to go to dinner alone – the constant reminder of being surrounded by couples will do nothing for you!
⁃ Do not go on a first date with someone – far too much pressure to make it something special!
⁃ Don’t resent those who are loved up, you’ll only look bitter.
– If you are actively looking for that someone, maybe give tinder etc a swerve on Valentine’s Day – embrace being single.
There is something to be said on the last point, in 2016 a survey carried out by first4Lawyers revealed that 34% of people who are romantically involved believed they would have more fun being single.
Spread the Love
So when you are feeling that little bit low today or indeed any day, remember that love comes in so many different forms. You are loved by family, friends and even colleagues. Love can present itself in so many different ways, so let’s treasure what we do know we have and make the most of it. And if you really can’t shake yourself out of the Valentine’s blues and don’t subscribe to the whole holistic view on love, look at it this way, you’ve a year to find Mr or Mrs Right!
So in true Valentine’s tradition, I will spread the love. Enjoy what ever it is you do today and Happy Valentine’s to all you wonderful parents out there. You all do a fabulous job.
Lots of people this year are using the hash tag #whyImSingle – so why don’t you comment back on my Facebook or Instagram feed using the hash tag and tell me why you are!
Getting into dating or worried about dating when you have children, then why not read this article.